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The Sinister Trap of Defending Yourself; Why You Can’t Win an Argument against a Narcissist
Defending Yourself against Their Lie Is a Trap!
Narcissists will accuse you with their lies or careful manipulation of the truth to disarm you against their attacks intentionally.
You cannot logically defend yourself against something that never happened or that you did not do, narcissists know this and they do it to trap you in a cul-de-sac of defence.
Then they deflect when you try to explain that they are guilty of what they accuse you of. The narcissist’s delivery of this might be clumsy or even childish.
To combat this common attack you should never accuse or confront a narcissist of what they have actually done.
I know that sounds completely counterproductive, but they are over-prepared for that.
Instead, take control of the exchange and change the topic of conversation to one that includes things that the narcissist is not proud of that don’t involve you.
It could be something they did to their offspring, relation or a friend.
When you spring something on them from out of the blue, it messes them up because they don’t have the memory to figure out if what you’re saying…
