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Narcissists Do This to Weaponize Your Trauma and Use It against You
How Narcissists Utilize Your Emotions to Destroy You from the Inside
Trauma is weaponized by narcissists and they will use any method of humiliation, degradation, shame, and guilt to traumatize the people around them.
This is done to put you down so that you will never fight back against the narcissist.
But it serves an additional function too, which is that the trauma is used to control you.
Have you ever been part way through winning an argument with a narcissist and they go way back in your past and dig up a personal traumatic event from your life?
Well, they were using trauma to control you, and a big part of breaking free of a narcissist’s grip is to overcome your trauma to stop it from being used against you.
Even if a narcissist doesn’t know anything about you, they mistreat you to create more trauma that they can use whenever they want.
They’ll do this using all of their usual tactics such as gaslighting, fights out of nowhere, lies, gossip, and manipulation.
A narcissist will watch you carefully during their first few arguments with you to understand which tactics work and which ones don’t.
