Having Boundaries Is Hard, Especially If You’re Missing This 1 Weird Tip

Everyone Will Instantly Respect You If You Do This

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During my journey, I have learnt that people won’t respect you if they don’t think you have teeth — in other words, if someone attacks your boundaries, and they are not defended assertively they automatically assume that they can keep on attacking you and nothing will happen.

Having boundaries and self-respect without assertiveness is like having treasure that is valuable and shiny, but not being able to defend it.

Without defences it will be plundered and destroyed, so inevitably you must be assertive when the line is crossed and the rules that you have set for your boundaries are broken.

This doesn’t mean you need to be aggressive, quite the contrary as a simple statement of fact that “What you did is not OK”, followed by a swift exit will suffice to make the point.

I didn’t know this when I was younger and I had no idea that people would test your boundaries like velociraptors testing the electric fences of Jurassic Park, but such is life and I learnt to adapt.

As the mad abbe said in The Count of Monte Cristo “The scariest tigers and crocodiles walk on two legs”.

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